What happens in our lives, despite what people say to us, is sometimes beyond our control.
Losing someone, divorce, being cheated on, a parent dying, a child dying, even losing a job in this day and age, all are things beyond our control.
How people treat us is sometimes beyond our control also. It is a mistake to think that “we bring it on”. Sometimes we do, but I would suggest to you that most of the time, we do not.
Our reactions to these situations is what matters the most. Our response is what counts and what is used against us or for us in general.
Our transitions from one situation to the other without a storm is what we should evaluate. Things will come at us, no doubt. What we do with it is what counts for or against us.
Our first action in a bad situation is to stop and evaluate the surroundings and decide on a course of action based on fair and deliberate decisions.
Evaluation of myself is the second step. Injury of the ego, injury of pride and the outcomes of that can be disastrous on my soul in the future.
Holding grudges hurts the soul, hurts the body and heart. People get physically ill from holding onto anger and unforgiveness.
Letting go of offenses is healthier and much more productive.
The grudge does not affect the grudged. Inner anger does not affect the angered at. Envy does not affect the envied.
Get over it and move on. Nothing is worth your health or your peace of mind. And this too shall pass is the truth.