Dear Baba Rumcake,
I remember when I was with my first bf (together for 8 years), I was so in love and I was never tired of seeing him. We dated from high school to college. So we were young and we didn’t have much going on in our lives except school. Now I am married (4 years) with a child. I can’t tell if I am still in love with my husband. Most of the time, I feel like I don’t need him. I am perfectly fine with my child.
I wonder if it’s because now I have a career, and a child, and being in a love relationship is no longer a priority to me?
I guess you have arrived at what most women look forward to. You have no need for the man you are with, yet you are happy. You may need a spark to renew your sex life but the stability of your marriage has helped you grow up and become independent.
You have a career and a child which fulfill you. That means that you are beyond need of a man. But, your desire to make your marriage more enjoyable is healthy and wonderful. This is one of those rare letters that make sense and leave me happy.
Wear plastic wrap and meet him at the door. Buy red lingerie with high heels and have an evening alone after you put your child to bed. Give him coupons that offer sex which he can redeem. Rent a limo and drive around, make love in the back seat.
I heard of a woman who knew where her husband had a business meeting, walked to the bar and sat down dressed to kill. After an hour, she walked up to him as if she knew him not, then bent over and whispered in his ear leaving a hotel key on the table before him. His buddies thought that this gorgeous stranger offered him herself for the night. He was thrilled.
Try these out! If they help, I will suggest more.