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Fear is Not of God

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_MG_4488.jpgThe fear of doing the wrong thing is always in the back of the mind of a believer. If I do this, what are the consequences of that! It keeps us in knots thinking that we should remain in bad situations set by archaic ideas and beliefs.

What if it is the will of God that you live without fear and strife? And it is the will of God that we should live without daily angst and destruction to our very soul. If a bad situation arises at work, your boss gets cruel and unkind, you would leave. Yet, women stay in bad marriages for years because of a set of beliefs so archaic and wrong about the sanctity of marriage.

When God tells you to go, please just open the door and go. He does not wish to see us abused and used. I am not suggesting a rosy garden or leaving behind the narrow road. I am suggesting that inner voice that tells you to get out and go.

Yet, Salma Keir found it difficult to leave since her minister told her to stay and be forgiving. Even thought her heart told her to leave, her church told her to stay. Years later, he sent a letter of apology. Who did she listen to? Not God! But her minister and it was the wrong thing since her husband took it as encouragement to continue bad, cruel and unkind behavior.

Leave! If things are so bad that you lose yourself, do yourself and your children a favor and leave. When you leave, you will be able to regain your confidence and forgive him.

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  • Doug Bittinger

    What comes to my mind are the statements the apostle Paul made about having learned to live a contented life regardless of the situation.  Imprisoned, beaten, stoned, shipwrecked, persecuted, he maintained an attitude of joy and peace.  BUT he was able to do this because of the reason for these circumstances.  He was vigorously promoting the cause of Christ, and he was being punished by Christ’s opponents for his refusal to shut up and go away.
    Placing your safety, and that of your children, in jeopardy by remaining in an abusive situation serves no such purpose.  If a minister is telling you to remain because it’s the Christian thing to do, that minister had better be counseling the husband on the detriments of his abuse or the minister is complicit in the damage being done.
    As you say, Sonia, walk away.  Get a fresh perspective.  Take a stand against the abuse.  Then see what needs to be done afterward.

    • Thank you Doug. A minister did suggest that the woman stay in a bad relationship despite all prayers and evidence against it. Even his wife, prodded. Years later, he wrote a letter of apology. Heart break. Thanks for stopping by and leaving me a note. I am grateful for your words.