Forgiveness is the key to moving on with your life after the trauma of marital abuse. It goes without saying that the person you are leaving behind is someone who hurt you. Yes, of course or you would not be leaving.
Unfortunately if you do not clear your conscience and forgive that person no matter what they have done to you, your life will be burdened with the guilt and the bitterness of hate. Forgiveness is an act of will not of feeling.
You may still feel hurt. You may still feel angry. But, the act of will to forgive someone, is just that, an act of will. Never shirk your responsibility when it comes to conflict. Nothing is more damaging to the hurt one than carrying the load of unforgiveness in heart and soul.
Unforgiveness eats at your very soul and heart. It affects the aggressor but little. Like envy, it does not hurt the one who hurt you, it only hurts you on the inside keeping you from fulfilling the heights of your own achievements in your own life.
Forgive him or her and move on with your own life away from them. Forgiveness does not mean that you have to stay in touch and go to dinner. It means that in your own heart and depth of your soul, you release the person of the guilt of your hurt.
“Forgiveness is to set a prisoner free, and to realize the prisoner was you.” – Corrie ten Boom, Dutch Christian Holocaust Survivor
Do not delay this act of releasing yourself of the burden of hatred and unforgiveness. Move on! Do not let it fetter you to the ground but allow yourself to soar above it all. @SalmaKeir
Caring For Eleanor, a journey in forgiveness and moving on.