My husband is very calm and steady. He is courteous, kind and giving. He does not clamour to be first, does not demand or push other people to get what he wants.
I find him patient and forgiving. I also find him attentive and quick to respond.
My husband gives way most of the time. He does not care if someone is ahead of him. He allows them to get ahead and further.
I learned all this about my husband from watching him drive.
I have been the passenger for the last five years and it has given me the opportunity to watch and learn about him and others around us.
My husband always gives himsefl enough time to be where he needs to be. He makes an effort to wake up earlier, get there sooner and be on time in general.
He is not in a rush. He drives the speed limit within reason.
When faced with a driver who wants his lane or his space, he gives in. He slows down and gives way. He realizes that a few seconds delay are not important in the scheme of things since if he needed those few seconds then he should have been on the road sooner.
I see him with pedestrians who are not paying attention, they have their earphones in, not looking and reading. He waits and allows them the time to cross even if another one steps off just as he is ready to drive off.
He does not care when a young man in the next car revs his engine at the light and looks over many times to see if he can go first and cut in and be ahead. My husband lets him.
He never tailgates and never honks his horn for those millisecond delays when people are turning. He smiles and if I get irritated, he reminds me that he is driving and that he does not mind.
When he gets cut off, my husband slows down and allows the other driver to get ahead. He once commented that testosterone was not a requirement for driving in the civilized world.
Driving will tell you and others what kind of person you are.