Dear Baba Rumcake,
I know a friend who is newly married and turning into a pretentious asshat who is losing contact with all his friends. I want to say that when stuff like this happens, the relationship is the one that will usually end–and likey badly. But for now he is I guess going strong with her–spending all his time with her or just home. I really cant believe the person he’s become.
what do you think?
Disgruntled in Dallas
Isn’t this when you’re supposed to pull out the “bros before hoes” card? Not that I support the slandering of women and blah dee blah, but the phrase represents the common phenomenon that you are now experiencing with your friend. In the early stages of many relationships, the couple gets so wrapped up in each other that they forget that there are other people involved in their lives. Most couples with this problem get over it, but unfortunately, sometimes by that point their friends are no longer waiting for their return from heaven. This issue is one of the concerns you voiced.
If you are worried this much, it is probably time for you to give your friend an intervention. Sit him down and let him know how you feel. Tell him that if he doesn’t stop acting like an infatuated puppy, he will lose his friendship with you and others. Ask him if he is willing to risk all of his well-established friendships on this new girl of his. Is that really worth it to him? At that point, the decision is his. If he snaps out of his funk and gives a little TLC to your friendship, great. If not, maybe he isn’t worth your time after all.
Blessing and Best of Luck with that Intervention,