Dear Baba Rumcake,
I have been married for 7 years but I have been having an affair for the past year and he wants me to start leaving my marriage to be with him.
My hubby is good to me and I really like them both. In some ways each one of them stands out. we have no kids and I don’t know what I should do. Difficult to decide, my husband is about the same age as me 31 and he is a bit older 40.
Any Ideas?
Hard To Say from Hawthorn
Dear Hard to say,
When I initially read your note, I thought you were a guy. Know why? Because cheating scum bags are usually the men who step out of a perfectly decent marriage to play around. Having said that, I realize that attention from other men is an attractive alternative to a steady marriage. Sigh!
Yeah, you started your 7 year itch a little too soon.
Be fair and tell your husband. Right now you are cuckolding him. Know what that means? He has horns the size of Texas from your shenanigans. Tell the bastard and let him decide for himself. If you do care for him and it is not merely convenience for you then tell the schmuck.
Unless he is a complete dolt, he already has a feeling something is happening. Give him the opportunity to dump your cheating butt out in the cold.
As for your, dearly new beloved, remember, starting with cheating will end in cheating. He is a moron believing that you will not do this to him because his ego dictates it. Not so! Once you cheat, you always cheat. He thinks he is some hot tamale and you will not do the same to him, you will. Cheating people, just cheat.
In the end, be seemly and tell your husband the truth and let him decide. The grass is always greener and that stud of 40 will peter out soon enough and the hot sex you’ve been having will dissipate starting another itch that will need a fix.
Blessings on your cheating heart,
Baba Rumcake