“I can’t help it. Am I supposed to stand here and take it? Am I supposed to allow everyone to walk all over me?”
We have all heard this call to arms. We have all heard this false untrue expletive from people we know and care about. The idea that one person is being “picked on” and treated unfairly is as old and older than the Cinderella story.
Only lately it has become the theme song for many people. They feel down trodden and used and abused. When you dissect what these people are saying and when you talk to them more closely, you find out that the main issue is that they are not getting what they want out of life and choose to blame everyone else for their short comings.
The idea that someone cannot help their behavior is an archaic idea that has been around for eons. This is not new and it is not endearing. The thought that we are so out of control and so angry at a situation that we lash out at the least likely people we should lash out against is a pathetic idea for living.
If you are angry and you cannot control your words and actions, quit the place, leave the room, absentee yourself until you can get it together and then communicate with your fellow humans. There is no excuse for cruelty and hateful words. Some of which could injure a soul without foreseen remedy.
On the whole it would be a much better world to live in if each one of us made sure that we are not hurting someone else instead of going after people we think have hurt us. Even if someone did hurt us, it is probably more useful to work on ourself and find out what it is that person could have said that could affect us to that extent.
Either way each one of us would be better served if we use some introspection and self evaluation instead of blame and condescension.