Dear Baba Rumcake,
My daughter is complaining, because I am insisting, that she “friend” me on FB. I pay her college tuition and her bills. What should I do?
Facebook Mom in Ft. Lauderdale
Dear Facebook Mom(s),
Back off! That is the first thing I would suggest to you. Back the hello off!
FB is a Social Network; not a Spy Network.
Make your own damn friends. Let your daughter be. Let her grow up and have her own friends, her own age. FB is not for you to observe your daughter, it is for her to have fun.
If your mother was on Facebook, with you, when you were younger, it would have been, a sore wound. Remember when you were young? I could not imagine, that you would have appreciated her, following every silly thing you said, having the opportunity, to comment on it, too.
You probably remind her to eat her vegetables. Or why she had not called you, or if she remembered, to pick up her room, yuck! Anything, you could come up with; in your interest, to keep tabs on her, on Facebook.
After 18, even if parents, are paying the bills in college, there should be a law, banning them, from Facebook. Just kidding, relax! No matter what we say, we are never the same with our mothers. There is a need to be good and wonderful. But, if your offspring, wants to get down to it, do what she wants to do, and be bad, you, will be watching on FB. Sheeeesh! That’s not happening.
Do not take it personally. Sometimes, we ban someone from our environment because they hate people we associate with, also. I have done that.
Nothing is more degrading or annoying than a parent who reminds their child of every little thing they do for them. Do you want a medal for taking care of her bills? It is your responsibility to take care of your child, in any manner you choose. Do not complain about it, just stop doing it. Or, stop complaining, and be responsible.
Lastly, have your own friends. You’re a big girl, get on with your life and let your daughter live hers.
Blessings on backing off. Let me know if it works out.