Surf’s Up with Father and Daughter


Father getting ready checking the surf while daughter plays in the sand.



When he is ready, he wades the waters and she bravely treads in with him.




As it gets deeper, he places her on his long board and off they go.


i did not have a long enough lens nor good enough camera to record their return on the larger waves.

As my husband and I watched this amazing short drama, we noticed the little blonde in the shallow surf. Unafraid, she dove again and again in the churning white surf. Fearless, she steadily got up and dove in over and over again.

After Dad finished his stretching on the beach, he picked up his long board and she hopped over excited and jumping up and down. He walked down the beach, she followed and like all children stopped and fiddled with the sand. He kept going and she would look and up and follow. Trust!

After he checked if she was ready, and she hopped up and down again, they got in the water and he paddled them off into the riptide.

Obviously he is an incredible surfer. Obviously he did not need a long board, he could have used a short one with ease but this attentive man brought a long surf board to take his little girl out. Without “teaching” and with just spending a few precious hours with his daughter, he bolstered her up and encouraged her as she learned the skill of riding the waves.

On the way back, riding the waves, we saw him hold her up, show her how to lean always keeping his hands on her. On the second wave, he actually picked her up and moved forward on the board to make it go faster.

Once on shore, her excitement was evident and she clapped her little hands, jumped up and down again and looked up at him with trust born of her short experience in life.

My husband and I were amazed and moved by the whole scene. Whether he knew it or not, this amazing man was making memories with his little girl, making her more confident and self-assured for future success.


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Is it any surprise that today is not only Valentine’s Day but also National Condom Week? Not to me. I can see the correlation here. Honestly, can’t you see it?

Here we are embarking on another V-day where expectations are high and demand is even higher. So, she is expecting a great dinner with flowers and chocolates. You may not be ready to give her that ring she wants but you sure want to get into her pants tonight, right? [Read more...]

List Why You Chose Your Partner

When things get tough in your relationship, remember all the things you loved about your partner.

Lists, are one of the most important projects you will accomplish in your life. They keep you focused and on task. Use it, to list why you fell in love, why that person was the one. Remember to add to the list the reasons you were convinced that they would make the perfect mate. Remember how they made you feel, good, elated or special. Any number of safe and solid reasons you decided on that choice. [Read more...]

Spiritual Water Satisfies Needs

Water is life giving! And today is World Water Day. Water is nourishing, sustaining our survival and keeping us from thirst. A person can last a long time without food but water is essential and necessary all the time.

When the Samaritan Woman argued with Jesus that He had nothing to draw water with, He responded to her by offering Himself. Living Water was what He offered that poor woman. He offered her the satisfaction of her soul. Knowing her life story, knowing her pitfalls and her sordid existence, He offered her life giving flowing abundance from Himself. [Read more...]

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Teaching our children manners is an old fashioned idea that seems to have fallen by the wayside. Too harsh? Maybe that is a little coarse. So, let’s make it an easier pill to swallow. Our values have changed so much, that, what we discipline our children for and the manners we require of them, are less demanding than before.

Children will do whatever they please, that is normal. But, we do live in society, unless you do not. If you do, then you have to take steps to mould some of those wild instincts before they become destructive habits. [Read more...]

Gay, Past Life; Are You Serious?

Dear Baba Rumcake,
I love my wife and children but occasionally, I like to be with men. Does that mean I was gay in a past life?

Tantalized from Cleveland

Dear Tantalized,

No, I would say, no. You were not gay, in a past life. You are gay, in this life.

Are you kidding, pal? I got it, that, you lived your life hiding behind the marriage certificate, bully for you. You have children too, very clever. I imagine, that you think that you are outsmarting everyone who loves you, by having such a great cover. You are not the first nor will you be the last man to do that.

It is interesting that you would want to believe that you were gay in a past life so that you would not admit that you are gay right now, in this life, at this moment. Which makes you an imaginative jughead.

If you continue down that path, it will be alright for a while, I guess, but not for long. Since you are gay, you will make mistakes and will get caught. When your wife finds out, she will probably want to bash your head in. Forewarned is forearmed!

Either stay off the “sauce” or get out, of the proverbial, closet, and live your life the way you want to live it.

So, just to clarify, so that there would be no mistakes about my answer to you, I will explain again.

You are gay. Do not make witless excuses for your needs.

Any man, who wants to be, with another man, is gay. Grow up! Past lives excuse, is for Quixotic dimwits.

Blessings on your past life.

Baba Rumcake

Do You Love Me or Are You Unhappy?

Dear Baba Rumcake,
Would you have a relationship with someone if you believed they would be unhappy with you?
If you love them and want them, but you think they’d be happier if you didn’t have a relationship with them…would you do it anyway?

Despondent in Danville

Dear Despondent,

There is an older funny movie with Bruce Willis and lovely Kim Bassinger, I suggest you see that flick. It will explain some of your questions.

On the other hand, it sounds to me like you are a selfish, self centered halfwit. If you think that this ploy will continue forever, you are mistaken. If you get what you want, it will be a disaster in the future. You will possess what you want, temporarily, but it will blow up in your face, causing caustic abrasions to your soul and hers.

Why in the world would you want to be with someone who would be unhappy with you. What kind of low life are you? What happened to knowing yourself and finding the person who finds you irresistible.

Only a cretin would go down that road of keeping someone with them that they know could be happier elsewhere. Only an imbecile would think that this would work long term.

Assuming that you are none of those things, just let her go and have a life of your own.

Blessings on your unselfish, good judgment,
Baba Rumcake