Dear Baba Rumcake,
I’m in the position of deciding whether or not to have sex with a wonderful guy who happens to have genital herpes. I think that I would be willing to take the risk if I were sure that this relationship was going someplace long term but its too early to tell. That probably means its too early to risk having sex too, but I’m interested in other people’s opinions on the scenario.
What would you do if you found out that a prospective romantic partner had genital herpes? Would you pursue the relationship?
Heart Broken in Hartford
Dear Heart Broken,
Herpes does not kill you. And what does not kill you, makes you stronger. But, that is just an opinion. Everyone, gets so tangled up in, the stigma, associated with herpes. If the guy is worth it, and he is since he told you. Go for it.
He is honest. Most importantly, he told you. You would not have known had he not informed you. Most people do not tell that they have Herpes. This guy did. Courageous and decent.
Also, you do not, have to contract, Herpes, just because, you are with someone, with Herpes. That is a myth. There are medications that keep Herpes at bay and most people live normal lives, with it.
I would not pass him up so easily. Studies have shown that if there are four people in a room, most likely, one of them has Herpes. It is said that most, have likely been, with someone inflicted, than not; because people do not tell.
God bless on your decision. Let me know how it works out.