Dear Baba Rumcake,
Hi! How does one get past the lonely feelings?
Divorced Dan in Durham
Dear Divorced,
You can be alone, but not lonely.You need to learn to be by yourself. Your question implies that you have not learned to be by yourself, for any length of time.
Learning to be alone is an art, worth exploring. Join a Yoga group. Learn to meditate. Join a singles club. Get out, have coffee and engage with strangers.
People who cannot be alone, generally, do not like themselves. When you like someone, you spend time with them. You need to learn to like who you are. If there are things you do not like about yourself, this is the time to explore them and make the necessary changes. Consider this the transition time, for meeting the woman of your future.
You will survive. But that is not enough. You need to learn to partake of life. Get out there and live.
Blessings on your alone days. Let me know how it goes.
Baba Rumcake