Dear Baba Rumcake,
Would you have a relationship with someone if you believed they would be unhappy with you?
If you love them and want them, but you think they’d be happier if you didn’t have a relationship with them…would you do it anyway?
Despondent in Danville
Dear Despondent,
There is an older funny movie with Bruce Willis and lovely Kim Bassinger, I suggest you see that flick. It will explain some of your questions.
On the other hand, it sounds to me like you are a selfish, self centered halfwit. If you think that this ploy will continue forever, you are mistaken. If you get what you want, it will be a disaster in the future. You will possess what you want, temporarily, but it will blow up in your face, causing caustic abrasions to your soul and hers.
Why in the world would you want to be with someone who would be unhappy with you. What kind of low life are you? What happened to knowing yourself and finding the person who finds you irresistible.
Only a cretin would go down that road of keeping someone with them that they know could be happier elsewhere. Only an imbecile would think that this would work long term.
Assuming that you are none of those things, just let her go and have a life of your own.
Blessings on your unselfish, good judgment,
Baba Rumcake