Dear Baba Rumcake,
How can you tell when a girl is trying to sabotage a relationship even though she claims she loves you? She flirts with others. Do other guys ever experience this?
Annoyed and Confused
It sounds from your post like you feel something is wrong. You are already on the right track.
Here is an idea of some of what seems to be going on. Everything she does is “deniable” and her most frequent excuse for sabotage is “Well, I didn’t know!”
Also, she flirts with other men and that is a BIG RED FLAG.
Sounds like she’s in that one movie, 10 Days to Lose a Guy that nerdy girl or something like that, or a crazy bitch. One or the other.
I also asked a friend and he stated, “Never ever trust a woman. That’s all I know.” A bit radical if you ask me but who knows it may work for you.
Some of what she will put you through is avoidance, deflecting and refusing to engage.
Ironically it sounds like she fears you will leave her, so she sets up situations that wear you down to the point where you question the value of staying.
But the truth is, it does not matter if she is ‘trying” to or not, she is worthless as a mate.
So even if she isn’t doing it deliberately the results are the same.
If we give her the benefit of the doubt and say she is panicking, still who cares. She needs to get her life together so that you can have a relationship not a sinking ship.
Blessings on getting into the life raft before it is too late,