Dear Baba Rumcake,
How to reclaim your reputation?
Can someone give me some pointers on this? In the last 4 yrs or so, I managed to be overly edgy and even rude to people that I should have been more kind, friendly, and gracious to. I was critical (not outwardly) and just an unhappy person wherever I went.
Outside of moving from this city, and starting again, what can I do now, esp. when I see these people again?
Repentant in Colorado
Dear Repentant,
It is easier if you just pick and start over. But, since you do not want to do that, you have your work cut out for you.
Here are several suggestions to ingratiate yourself with people you have offended:
- If it is an older person, take out their trash, ask if they need a ride to the grocery store and accompany them.
- Babysit for someone, she will appreciate the offer. She will probably not let you, from your history, but it is a foot in the door. Shows you are trying.
- Buy someone a cup of coffee and suggest that it is an apology.
- Open and hold the door for one of those people the next time you see them.
- Smile, a lot. It will help ease the awkwardness.
- If she or he, reads, ask what they are reading lately. Offer to loan them a book of yours.
This is an exceedingly short list. There is so much more you must do to show gratitude and appreciation of others. Don’t be a putz. Even if you feel bad and yucky, do not take it out on others. Have some self control.
Blessings on your change of attitude. Let me know how it works out for you.
Baba Rumcake