The fear of doing the wrong thing is always in the back of the mind of a believer. If I do this, what are the consequences of that! It keeps us in knots thinking that we should remain in bad situations set by archaic ideas and beliefs.
What if it is the will of God that you live without fear and strife? And it is the will of God that we should live without daily angst and destruction to our very soul. If a bad situation arises at work, your boss gets cruel and unkind, you would leave. Yet, women stay in bad marriages for years because of a set of beliefs so archaic and wrong about the sanctity of marriage.
When God tells you to go, please just open the door and go. He does not wish to see us abused and used. I am not suggesting a rosy garden or leaving behind the narrow road. I am suggesting that inner voice that tells you to get out and go.
Yet, Salma Keir found it difficult to leave since her minister told her to stay and be forgiving. Even thought her heart told her to leave, her church told her to stay. Years later, he sent a letter of apology. Who did she listen to? Not God! But her minister and it was the wrong thing since her husband took it as encouragement to continue bad, cruel and unkind behavior.
Leave! If things are so bad that you lose yourself, do yourself and your children a favor and leave. When you leave, you will be able to regain your confidence and forgive him.