Dear Baba Rumcake,
When a woman passes by you and gives you a smile while passing by, how do you know she’s just being friendly or is romantically interested in me? Are there any indicators either way?
Debunked in Danbury
Assume that she is not romantically interested in you. Unless you are a rock star, sports star, or celebrity, she is probably grimacing at the thought that you might speak to her as you cross in the night. Have you looked at yourself in the mirror lately? No one is going to be attracted to you from a 3-second glance. That is not a smile, it is a rictus of discomfort.
There are approximately 43 reasons why one person smiles at another. You make her nervous. He thinks you are stupid. She can’t think of anything to say. He is sucking a sesame seed from his front teeth. When a baby smiles at you, it is not happy to see you, it is farting. Get over yourself. The best indication of a woman’s interest in you is as simple as it is ontological: if she smiles at you while she passes you by… SHE IS PASSING YOU BY! Get it? If she were interested in you, she would abort her initial trajectory and find some excuse to stick around.
By the time a woman is old enough for a romantic tryst, she is no doubt adept at signaling her intentions to even the most oblivious knucklehead. You will have no cause for confusion. If you are not certain, the answer is no. Things like instant attraction rarely happen in real life, and when they do, they are the worst possible basis for a relationship. For a woman to be attracted to you she will have to get to know you and then, for reasons of her own, overlook the obvious.
Blessings on your next encounter. Let me know when it gets serious.