Lonely Condom Seeks Valentine

Valentine’s Day with National Condom Week


Is it any surprise that today is not only Valentine’s Day but also National Condom Week? Not to me. I can see the correlation here. Honestly, can’t you see it?

Here we are embarking on another V-day where expectations are high and demand is even higher. So, she is expecting a great dinner with flowers and chocolates. You may not be ready to give her that ring she wants but you sure want to get into her pants tonight, right? [Read more...]

Lips Tell Who You Are

LipsLips Appreciation Day

Nothing says beautiful as a pair of gorgeous lush lips, with a sparkling wine color. Whatever your preference is for eyes and body, lips are the only time people agree that full and voluptuous is the hallmark of gorgeous in the flappers department.

The dictionary describes them as the fleshy part that is over and below the teeth and mouth. Lips have been exalted in literature, poetry and paintings. Nothing says I love you, like a plump pair of lips. [Read more...]

Why Men Seek Youth

I saw this and thought i should post for women to see.
Free advice from Baba Rumcake that explains how some men are scumbags.

Bad News and the Good News…
Sorry if this is harsh but its good (life changing) advice.
The bad news is you are right. I am 32 and am not interested in girls my own age anymore. [Read more...]

Long Distance Not Hot Enough

This guy is becoming distant…what to do?
I met this guy online and he expressed deep interest and how he feels about me. Then the 2nd time we chat, I told him how I feel about him. One thing is every time I chat with him, it goes really well but afterward I am gone like for a week before chat with him again.

Now after 3 chats, I feel he is cooling off. But I am not sure if it is because I told him how I feel so he lost interest. I tried to reconcile with him, and he answers my messages but is always lukewarm with close ended answers.

Anyone tell me what is the reason causing the cool off? Should I go ahead ask straight what is the reason since trying to small chat has failed?
Thanks and your sincere advice is really appreciated!
Cooling Off Freezing Me Off


  • This is a long distance chat.
  • This has only lasted for three chats
  • How can you have feelings for someone after a single chat?
  • How hot was he from a long distance after one chat?
  • So what if he cools off, you do not even know him.
  • If his answers are close ended, he is not interested and keeping you for a lonely night when there is no one else online.
  • If you want to ask him, outright, what is stopping you?

Blessings on keeping warm,
Baba Rumcake

Tempted in Tampa

Dear Baba Rumcake,

To divorce or not divorce …that is the question.

I am at the point where I think a sweet affair would be the momentary lovely balm to the sunburn. I am out here for one special woman… perhaps in a similar circumstance… if only to write about things… first…
What do you think?
Tempted in Tampa

Dear Tempted,
You may end up with blood poisoning, after, that “momentary lovely balm to the sunburn”.

You know the old adage from the Baptists, Dancing leads to sex. Well, in this case, writing, leads to meeting; then meeting leads to screwing. Now we are talking, serious involvement.

Be aware, that you might get, what you are looking for out there. Including, but not limited to, horrible diseases and crooks.

If you start another relationship, before trying to fix this one, you will end up in the same rut again. Nothing new there.

Once you allow yourself the possibility of cheating, you will cheat. If losing the woman you are married to, is not a problem, then by all means, go for it. If it is an issue, stay off that course.

Blessings and may the burn reach where you cannot itch.

Baba Rumcake

Confused PDA Fan

Dear Baba Rumcake,

is it strange when guys are really into PDA?

Confused PDA Fan

Dear PDA Fan,

If by “really” you mean tearing someone’s clothes off on a busy street corner, frenching during a family get together, or bumping uglies on a crowded bus, you may have a bit of a problem. If by “really” you mean holding hands on a walk, kissing in the corner at a party, or giving your lover a neck massage while with a group of friends, that might be considered more socially acceptable.

The other factor depends entirely on the object of your PDA. Is he or she ok with your displays? If so, and you are both comfortable with the degree of publicity, then screw anyone else who might have a problem. If he or she is not as big of a fan of PDA, then your attempts may end up pushing your partner away. You may have to discuss and establish a mutual boundary.

If you are concerned about what other people think, maybe you aren’t as big of a fan of PDA as you think. The whole point of PDA is being ready and willing to show the world how you feel about someone. There will always be anal conservatives who get grossed-out by PDA. Either you care what they think, or you don’t. You have to decide what you are comfortable with.

Blessings and all the best displaying some affection,

Baba Rumcake

Debunked in Danbury

Dear Baba Rumcake,

When a woman passes by you and gives you a smile while passing by, how do you know she’s just being friendly or is romantically interested in me? Are there any indicators either way?

Debunked in Danbury

Dear DD,

Assume that she is not romantically interested in you.  Unless you are a rock star, sports star, or celebrity, she is probably grimacing at the thought that you might speak to her as you cross in the night. Have you looked at yourself in the mirror lately?  No one is going to be attracted to you from a 3-second glance.  That is not a smile, it is a rictus of discomfort.

There are approximately 43 reasons why one person smiles at another.  You make her nervous.  He thinks you are stupid.  She can’t think of anything to say.  He is sucking a sesame seed from his front teeth.  When a baby smiles at you, it is not happy to see you, it is farting.  Get over yourself.  The best indication of a woman’s interest in you is as simple as it is ontological:  if she smiles at you while she passes you by… SHE IS PASSING YOU BY!  Get it?  If she were interested in you, she would abort her initial trajectory and find some excuse to stick around.

By the time a woman is old enough for a romantic tryst, she is no doubt adept at signaling her intentions to even the most oblivious knucklehead.  You will have no cause for confusion.  If you are not certain, the answer is no.  Things like instant attraction rarely happen in real life, and when they do, they are the worst possible basis for a relationship.  For a woman to be attracted to you she will have to get to know you and then, for reasons of her own, overlook the obvious.

Blessings on your next encounter. Let me know when it gets serious.
Baba Rumcake

Sultry in Seattl

Dear Baba Rumcake,

I’m in my first year at Seattle University.  I’ve made a great group of friends with the people in my dorm and me and this one guy have been hooking up for a while now.  I think I want us to be more than just friends with benefits, but I think we’re both hesitant about what may happen if things go sour, living in the same building and all.  All of our friends know we’ve been hooking up and they all think we should be together, but neither of us have the balls to bring up the conversation. I just want to know that he feels the same way I do, but I don’t know how to bring it up without it being awkward.  What should I do??

Dear SultryinSeattl

Since you are in college, I will assume, that, you have a measure of intelligence. You are correct in thinking that things would be awkward, if, you have problems, with this guy, especially, since you live in the same building.

Before I suggest what you should do, let me ask why you want to take this to the next level? Why in the world do you want a permanent, or “more” as you called it? You are having fun in Seattle, I am sure. College is a new experience. Your life is fun, sounds like. Why screw it up?! You have a good thing. A good friend and lover and you get along.

One of the worst things women do, is always quantify and qualify relationships. You want to put him in a corner and make him tell you that this is it, you are the love of his life. Women do this to their detriment.

Are you really ready for a commitment of that magnitude? I am sure the answer is no. So, why ask him to make it. If your relationship is going to work out, it will work out without analysis or pushing from you.

Have fun and keep this guy around for as long as it will last. You sound smart and reasonable.

Now, if you do not want to listen to any of the above, here is the other thing you can do; ask him. Come outright and ask the poor schlep, and see if he does not run into the hills screaming. Most men cannot handle this type of question. He would not be bad or mean, he is just a man.

Blessings this day, on your Sultriness. Let me know how it works out.
Baba Rumcake

Roe vs. Wade Day

“Roe v. Wade prompted a national debate that continues today, about issues including whether and to what extent abortion should be legal, who should decide the legality of abortion, what methods the Supreme Court should use in constitutional adjudication, and what the role should be of religious and moral views in the political sphere. Roe v. Wade reshaped national politics, dividing much of the nation into pro-choice and pro-life camps, while activating grassroots movements on both sides.”

Unfortunately, this issue was taken to the religious arena where debate is still hot and bothers most Christians.

Sin is sin! Murder is still murder. This is not a political debate. And yet, as Christians, we have insisted on making it a political war zone. We are not politicians. Jesus was NOT a politician. Jesus loved man and died for his sins. We love not the world, so why are we so entrenched in the world of politics.

The word politics derives from the latin, Politika, which means, citizen of the world. We are not citizens of the world. We are free of this world, to the next. Stop getting yourself bogged down by the troubles of this world.

Part of the reason why America began, was to get away, from the rule of the Catholic church and stand alone; without being told what to do. I am not “for” abortion, for myself. But, I do not inflict my own personal opinion on others. Stop doing it! Our nation has been infected by political sermons.

Preach Jesus, not issues!

When radio broadcasts that I loved, went to politics, they changed their platform, instead of ‘Jesus people’, they have become ‘political people’. Associate yourself with Christ, not with politics and current issues.

If you believe that you should not have an abortion, do not have one. You have no right, stopping anyone else, deciding for themselves, their own course of action, in their own life. That is between them, and God. We are not judge and jury. We are citizens of a future life, not here, and not to be meddled with, ever.

Keep the faith!
– Sonya