Cheating How To Know

How to assess: Feeling like something is wrong: trust you intuition. If you think something is wrong, pay attention. Unless of course you are one of those apt to find a problem everywhere. Constant privacy: if they start to need more time “alone” to surf the net or to go out with friends or to [...]

Are Losers Judging Me?

Dear Rumcake, Sameness is my comfort zone and dare I not step out of my shell. God forbid if I explore new things. I stress when driving and get lost. I hate going to new and unfamiliar places trying to find my way looking or coming across as klutzy or dumb so I won’t take [...]

Married to a Gay Man

Dear Baba Rumcake, My husband jacks off to gay porn like all the time. but I KNOW he enjoys sex with me. It is very obvious. but He likes to sneak away and beat off to this stuff about half the time. Says it reminds him of nasty things he did in boarding school. Should [...]

Confused in Sausalito

Dear Baba Rumcake, OCD or just really clean ? My new bf is much, much neater and cleaner than I am. He takes the cup he made tea in, rinses it w water, then puts it in the dishwasher. This is herb tea w no sugar or milk. I say that the cup can be [...]

Live With Abiding Faith

“Belief is not an intellectual act; belief is a moral act whereby I deliberately commit myself.” – Oswald Chambers Most people who do things based on faith, have always been considered crazy or impractical. Contrary to that are the people who do everything based on their understanding of a situation. Acting on the information gleaned [...]