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Facebook Mom in Ft. Lauderdale

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Dear Baba Rumcake,

My daughter is complaining, because I am insisting, that she “friend” me on FB. I pay her college tuition and her bills. What should I do?

Facebook Mom in Ft. Lauderdale

Dear Facebook Mom(s),

As Peanut, from Jeff Dunham, said, “Holy crap! Help me out! Help me out!”

Back off! That is the first thing I would suggest to you. Back the hello off!

FB is a Social Network; not a Spy Network.
Make your own damn friends. Let your daughter be. Let her grow up and have her own friends, her own age. FB is not for you to observe your daughter, it is for her to have fun.

If your mother was on Facebook, with you, when you were younger, it would have been, a sore wound. Remember when you were young? I could not imagine, that you would have appreciated her, following every silly thing you said, having the opportunity, to comment on it, too.

You probably remind her to eat her vegetables. Or why she had not called you, or if she remembered, to pick up her room, yuck! Anything, you could come up with; in your interest, to keep tabs on her, on Facebook.

After 18, even if parents, are paying the bills in college, there should be a law, banning them, from Facebook. Just kidding, relax! No matter what we say, we are never the same with our mothers. There is a need to be good and wonderful. But, if your offspring, wants to get down to it, do what she wants to do, and be bad, you, will be watching on FB. Sheeeesh! That’s not happening.

Do not take it personally. Sometimes, we ban someone from our environment because they hate people we associate with, also. I have done that.

Nothing is more degrading or annoying than a parent who reminds their child of every little thing they do for them. Do you want a medal for taking care of her bills? It is your responsibility to take care of your child,  in any manner you choose. Do not complain about it, just stop doing it. Or, stop complaining, and be responsible.

Lastly, have your own friends. You’re a big girl, get on with your life and let your daughter live hers.

Blessings on backing off. Let me know if it works out.

Baba Rumcake

Cockroach Day, Down Under

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While the Melbourne Cup, is a public holiday, only in Melbourne do people take the day off. But, everyone in Australia , has a day off for the annual cockroach races, partly because, the races take place, on Australia Day.

According to the story of cockroach racing, which started in 1981, two men, both, from Kangaroo Point, were arguing, at the bar, called the Story Ridge Hotel, about, which of their suburbs, was home to, the biggest cockroaches.  Of course, what else.

I must add, that I am sure, since they were in a pub, they were drinking. Can we at least agree on that? Yeah, sure we can. We shall hence call them the two drunks.

So, these two drunks, to settle their dispute, caught a cockroach each, at home, on their own, and brought it to the pub.

Again, to catch, mind you, catch, a disgusting insect, like a roach, and they are big for the race, you have to be smashed, right? Bombed?

Bringing those gross things in was one thing but these delightful hammered men, proceeded to race them. No one knows why, no one knows what, prompted the decision to “race” the disgusting pests.

Now, the whole country makes this a holiday. And I thought, we Americans, come up with holidays to have days off. No Siree Bob, we do not even come close to this lovely and charming holiday that the whole of Australia celebrates together with races, beer, food, and fun in the sun.

Eeeeewwwwwwww!

If you do not believe me, read on. Here is a link, with  pictures. 🙂

Roe vs. Wade Day

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“Roe v. Wade prompted a national debate that continues today, about issues including whether and to what extent abortion should be legal, who should decide the legality of abortion, what methods the Supreme Court should use in constitutional adjudication, and what the role should be of religious and moral views in the political sphere. Roe v. Wade reshaped national politics, dividing much of the nation into pro-choice and pro-life camps, while activating grassroots movements on both sides.”
Wikipedia

Unfortunately, this issue was taken to the religious arena where debate is still hot and bothers most Christians.

Sin is sin! Murder is still murder. This is not a political debate. And yet, as Christians, we have insisted on making it a political war zone. We are not politicians. Jesus was NOT a politician. Jesus loved man and died for his sins. We love not the world, so why are we so entrenched in the world of politics.

The word politics derives from the latin, Politika, which means, citizen of the world. We are not citizens of the world. We are free of this world, to the next. Stop getting yourself bogged down by the troubles of this world.

Part of the reason why America began, was to get away, from the rule of the Catholic church and stand alone; without being told what to do. I am not “for” abortion, for myself. But, I do not inflict my own personal opinion on others. Stop doing it! Our nation has been infected by political sermons.

Preach Jesus, not issues!

When radio broadcasts that I loved, went to politics, they changed their platform, instead of ‘Jesus people’, they have become ‘political people’. Associate yourself with Christ, not with politics and current issues.

If you believe that you should not have an abortion, do not have one. You have no right, stopping anyone else, deciding for themselves, their own course of action, in their own life. That is between them, and God. We are not judge and jury. We are citizens of a future life, not here, and not to be meddled with, ever.

Keep the faith!
— Sonya

Dejected in Durham

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Dear Baba Rumcake,

Ugh, i had that moment tonight
Hanging out with my “baby” when I realized he’s so big and not a baby at all anymore. It made me super sad!!
He’s almost 14 months old.
Does everyone have that moment? How old is the child when it happens?

Dejected in Durham

Dear Dejected,

Ummmm…yeah, they do grow up. You need to do some growing up, also. No, most people do not feel sad, that their children are growing up. You seem to be dependent on that child for some self fulfillment.

Find something else to do or else you will keep that kid from growing up to be, independent of you. That feeling should be quick and transient. Move on.

Dwelling on it, hoping that there are other people out there with the same ‘syndrome’ is not healthy. You will suffer empty nest too, in the future, because honey, they do leave, when they get older. Enjoy the time with your child. Don’t worry about wanting to hold on and not let go.

Get on with it. You both will be fine.

Blessings on that child and you. Let me know how you do.

Baba Rumcake

Dubious in Denver

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Dear Baba Rumcake,

Is this weird? A man and wife marry and agree that the wife will be a SAHM( Stay at Home Mom )
Before this, she was a working professional.
They have kids. And are still paying off her student loans.
In essence, he is paying for her education. Is that odd?
Dubious in Denver

Dear Dubious,
What in the world is so ODD about that agreement? She is having your kids, I assume. So, she still has a job; the most important JOB a parent can have. The days of men thinking that women are not working because they are home, are long gone.

Where have you been? Under a rock, because you’re still living in the Stone Age! No, it is not odd at all. You would be paying daycare anyway, same price, VASTLY different results! She will probably save you a bundle if you were not so petty and parochial.

Grow up! Stop complaining about your wife and buck up. Your note states that this is a mutual agreement. Therefore your question is narrow minded and treacherous, at best. I also hope she does not read your simple minded postings, ever.

Blessings on your day. Let me know how it works out.

Baba Rumcake