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Jan 21, International Fetish Day

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Today is International Fetish Day.



Now what do you think of that? Have you ever thought what your fetish is? There are a wide variety of fetishes in the world and since this is an international day, I thought that listing them all would be interesting. How useful, I am not really certain of that. But, why always write what is important.

Entertainment for today!

A list of fetishes and my commentary:

Acomoclitic – the preference of hairless genitalia…

Botulinonia – using a sausage as a dildo., …just don’t cook it later, please

Choreophilia – sexually aroused by dancing, ….that’s what the Baptists said, it leads to sex.

Doraphilia – arousal from fur or animal skin, …..ewwwww, side of beef.

Endytphoilia – refers to preferring sex partners to be clothed rather than naked, …..why for heaven’s sake. Puritans.

Gomphipothic – arousal by seeing teeth, ….. huh?

Homilophilia – arousal from giving sermon or speech., ….no wonder he was so thrilled all the time.

Inspectionism – Voyeurism, …we all do that when we watch movies, get over it.

Jactitation – arousal from bragging about sexual exploits, ….every friggin’ locker room is raging then.

Kleptolagnia – arousal from stealing, ….well, that’s alright then, you can have it, 🙂

Lactaphilia – arousal from lactating breasts, ….see that is why they ask women to cover up when feeding, risking discovery.

Melolagnia – arousal from music, …. ta ra la la la tra la la…O crap, done.

Nanophilia – attraction to, vertically challenged people, ….yep thought I should be PC.

Ochlophilia – arousal from biting, ….Ok, just take your rabies shots first.

Psychrotentiginous – Arousal from cold water, …Now that is just wrong.

Rhabdophilia – Arousal from being flogged, beaten or caned, ….Gimme that rod, I’ll take care of your problem.

Satyriasis – Male equivalent of nymphomania, ….That is just called a male slut.

Timophilia – Arousal from power or wealth, ….Now I get it, no wonder Cheney needed it, the limp biscuit.

Urtication – The use of stinging plants to stimulate the skin, ….Ouch!

Vincilagnia – Arousal from bondage, ….Talk about keeping someone in their place.

Xenophilia – Sexual arousal from strangers, ….Yeah, you don’t hate them since you do not know them, 🙂

Zwischenstufe – Arousal from person/s of the same sex, ….Is that like homosexual?

A to Z, International Fetish Day

— Sonya

Dejected in Durham

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Dear Baba Rumcake,

Ugh, i had that moment tonight
Hanging out with my “baby” when I realized he’s so big and not a baby at all anymore. It made me super sad!!
He’s almost 14 months old.
Does everyone have that moment? How old is the child when it happens?

Dejected in Durham

Dear Dejected,

Ummmm…yeah, they do grow up. You need to do some growing up, also. No, most people do not feel sad, that their children are growing up. You seem to be dependent on that child for some self fulfillment.

Find something else to do or else you will keep that kid from growing up to be, independent of you. That feeling should be quick and transient. Move on.

Dwelling on it, hoping that there are other people out there with the same ‘syndrome’ is not healthy. You will suffer empty nest too, in the future, because honey, they do leave, when they get older. Enjoy the time with your child. Don’t worry about wanting to hold on and not let go.

Get on with it. You both will be fine.

Blessings on that child and you. Let me know how you do.

Baba Rumcake

Dubious in Denver

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Dear Baba Rumcake,

Is this weird? A man and wife marry and agree that the wife will be a SAHM( Stay at Home Mom )
Before this, she was a working professional.
They have kids. And are still paying off her student loans.
In essence, he is paying for her education. Is that odd?
Dubious in Denver

Dear Dubious,
What in the world is so ODD about that agreement? She is having your kids, I assume. So, she still has a job; the most important JOB a parent can have. The days of men thinking that women are not working because they are home, are long gone.

Where have you been? Under a rock, because you’re still living in the Stone Age! No, it is not odd at all. You would be paying daycare anyway, same price, VASTLY different results! She will probably save you a bundle if you were not so petty and parochial.

Grow up! Stop complaining about your wife and buck up. Your note states that this is a mutual agreement. Therefore your question is narrow minded and treacherous, at best. I also hope she does not read your simple minded postings, ever.

Blessings on your day. Let me know how it works out.

Baba Rumcake

Looney in Lexington

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Dear Baba Rumcake,

The love of my life got mad at me about six months ago, and refused to speak to me. I apologized and begged, but he would not talk to me. I had to get over him.

6-7 months later, he emails me his deployment address to Afghanistan, so I thought maybe he’d had time to cool off, and if I showed him again how much I cared.

I sent him a care pack, and he emailed me and said thank you, and we emailed back and forth a few times, and I sent him another care pack and a card for Veteran’s Day. Then he tells me he was leaving on a mission, and would be gone for several weeks, and to have a Merry Christmas.

I sent him 3 more care packs during that time, one for Christmas, one for NY, and one for regular toiletries and things.

I also sent him an email on Christmas day telling him Merry Christmas, and that he was being prayed for/thought of on the holiday.

On NYE, I find out from some guys in his group that he hasn’t been anywhere..he got back 2 weeks earlier and just didn’t bother to email me. Or let me know he got the packages, even though he was IMing and skyping with other girls (which he never asked me to do)

I emailed him and told him that I found out about it, and told him to remove me from his contact list so there were no more mis-commmunications, and he emailed me back telling me not to question his integrity, he had not lied to me, he never asked me for anything. and that he had sent me a letter in the mail the day he got back (which was a lie as I have not received one )

So I emailed him back , and told hiim that he may think he is a big hot shot with a girlfriend to skype with, but she would end up cheating on him, that most girls cheat on guys over there, they post all over Facebook about how much they love and miss their man, but they get with other guys, and I told him that he was a fool for falliing for it.

Give it to me straight, rofo…how crazy did  I seem? I know I seemed off..but I was so hurt that he wasn’t just honest with me. and I feel used.

Looney in Lexington

Dear Looney,

One of the biggest problems of this situation is our inability to move on. Get a grip! Move on, child! He is not interested.

Why are you trying so hard with this guy? Is he that special? What is it about him that makes you so obsessive and ready to make an ass of yourself?

When you find out all these things, you will find out how to get over that kind of behavior. You should put this compulsion into something more productive. Sounds to me that you have lots of drive but in the wrong directions.

And now to answer your question: Yes you are looney and crazy. Dump the bastard and move on with your life. There are lots of fish in the sea. Your catch with rat in the sand was rotten. Thank him for serving our nation and move on.

Blessings on coming to your senses. Let  me know how it works out for you.

Baba Rumcake

Desperate in Detroit

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Dear Baba Rumcake,

I love my GF and she’s hot now, but I see potential-for-her-to-get fat with middle age (she’s 26 now). or possibly with the comfort of marriage. or possibly because of her career ambitions (extra time at work means more snacks and less exercise).

I am a marriage-minded guy and would happily marry her if I could be assured she won’t blow up.

WHAT DO I DO?!?!?

continue this relationship until she gets fat?
marry her and divorce if she gets fat?
dump her now?

if I dump her now, what justification do I use? everything is great now. can I actually tell her, “I think you’re going to get fat and I’m not down with having a fat wife”?
Desperate in Detroit

Dear Desperate and don’t care where you are,

You say you are a “marriage-minded guy?” Do you know what marriage is? Marriage is promising your love to someone “in sickness and in health.” Marriage is about love. You say you love your girlfriend?

The fact that her weight is a significant factor to you and that the mere potential for weight-gain is enough for you to contemplate breaking it off is a sure sign to me that you do not know what love is. I couldn’t give you the definition of love, but I know for sure that it isn’t what you feel for this woman, and I am fairly certain that you are incapable of feeling it at all.

Until you grow up a little bit, I don’t think you have the right to inflict your hand in marriage on any poor woman. Maybe you should watch Shallow Hal and Beauty and the Beast a few more times.

In answer to your question of when you should break it off with your girlfriend, I highly recommend that you do it immediately. In answer to your question of the reason you should tell her, tell her the truth—“I am a shallow asshole, incapable of giving you the love and respect that you deserve. Therefore, it is imperative that we end this fraudulent relationship.”

Blessing on expanding your mind this day. Go Rot,

Baba Rumcake