Dear Baba Rumcake,
The love of my life got mad at me about six months ago, and refused to speak to me. I apologized and begged, but he would not talk to me. I had to get over him.
6-7 months later, he emails me his deployment address to Afghanistan, so I thought maybe he’d had time to cool off, and if I showed him again how much I cared.
I sent him a care pack, and he emailed me and said thank you, and we emailed back and forth a few times, and I sent him another care pack and a card for Veteran’s Day. Then he tells me he was leaving on a mission, and would be gone for several weeks, and to have a Merry Christmas.
I sent him 3 more care packs during that time, one for Christmas, one for NY, and one for regular toiletries and things.
I also sent him an email on Christmas day telling him Merry Christmas, and that he was being prayed for/thought of on the holiday.
On NYE, I find out from some guys in his group that he hasn’t been anywhere..he got back 2 weeks earlier and just didn’t bother to email me. Or let me know he got the packages, even though he was IMing and skyping with other girls (which he never asked me to do)
I emailed him and told him that I found out about it, and told him to remove me from his contact list so there were no more mis-commmunications, and he emailed me back telling me not to question his integrity, he had not lied to me, he never asked me for anything. and that he had sent me a letter in the mail the day he got back (which was a lie as I have not received one )
So I emailed him back , and told hiim that he may think he is a big hot shot with a girlfriend to skype with, but she would end up cheating on him, that most girls cheat on guys over there, they post all over Facebook about how much they love and miss their man, but they get with other guys, and I told him that he was a fool for falliing for it.
Give it to me straight, rofo…how crazy did I seem? I know I seemed off..but I was so hurt that he wasn’t just honest with me. and I feel used.
Looney in Lexington
One of the biggest problems of this situation is our inability to move on. Get a grip! Move on, child! He is not interested.
Why are you trying so hard with this guy? Is he that special? What is it about him that makes you so obsessive and ready to make an ass of yourself?
When you find out all these things, you will find out how to get over that kind of behavior. You should put this compulsion into something more productive. Sounds to me that you have lots of drive but in the wrong directions.
And now to answer your question: Yes you are looney and crazy. Dump the bastard and move on with your life. There are lots of fish in the sea. Your catch with rat in the sand was rotten. Thank him for serving our nation and move on.
Blessings on coming to your senses. Let me know how it works out for you.