Innovative in Incline Village

Dear Baba Rumcake,

He doesn’t have life balance.

I can have a job, several creative projects, a relationship and pets and hobbies. He thinks that, me having hobbies and projects, takes away time from him, and I shouldn’t have any outside interests.

I don’t know what to do. If I’m not creating something, I feel like I will die. I know lots of girls who do what I do, and they have really cool bfs with their projects and hobbies. I don’t know why he can’t be cool like those guys are and they are so supportive too.

Innovative in Incline Village

Dear Innovative,

Sounds to me, like this nettlesome guy, is not interested in you, at all. This obnoxious person, is only interested, in what you, can do, for him.

He also sounds weak and unconfident. Cutting you off, from what you like to do, to ‘wait’ on him, is a bad sign of insecurity.

Your mate, should encourage you to grow and feel alive. Run! Get away from this guy. People do not change that drastically without Spiritual intervention. Since, he sounds self centered and egotistical, I do not see this happening for you with him.

Find out what it is you like about this guy so much? Look at what it is, that attracts you to someone so dependent and narcissistic? You need to find out more about your choices and why you are attracted to this bozo.

You might find out a lot about yourself through your search.

Wishing you blessings in dumping the trash, and continued creativity,

Baba Rumcake

Nightmare Flight Passengers

Dear Baba Rumcake,

As usual, at the airport, the line was long, the passengers irritated and the workers at their wits’ end. No one to blame, just the way things were.
But, when some annoying, disgusting, family of four, decided to cut the line, in front of everyone else, getting to the agent, before all of us, it was ugly.
“Do we have to go to the end of the line,” asked, the annoying, whiny female of the group.
Who are these people? Where do they come from? Who taught them manners?

Exasperated in Exeter

Dear Exasperated,

Standing in line, to get on the airplane, is never fun, anymore. It used to be, so much, fun to fly. Those people you just mentioned are the same people who cut in line at the grocery store, or the movie theater or to get on a bus.

Those are the same people who have no manners, chewing with their mouths open and wipe from back to front because no one taught them any better.

The agent, I am sure, did not want to engage these lovely creatures. Those are the same people who having too much luggage, they trudge, down the walkway, bumping every wall, on the way.

Where do these delightful people, end up sitting? You got it! They sit right behind your seat. No room for them, so, they kept bumping their knees against your seat, over and over again. Making the whole flight, a bump and grind.

They will try, to get out first, but alas, it might be impossible so they proceed to discuss their upcoming holiday, which no one cares about, in a loud voice. Waiting for the rest of the plane to unload, they complain, bitterly, about the crowded quarters.

Four fully grown adults who are pricks. I’m sorry. You were telling me, about your, flight. No matter.

They may be the same family that I flew out with the other month.

Blessings on your next flight.

Baba Rumcake

10 Sci Fi and Adventure Movies

10 movies for Sci Fi and Adventure Lovers


Lights descend on the city of Los Angeles which pulls people like moths to a flame. Aliens come to earth to swallow the whole of the entire population. Interesting!


An assassin hired by the universal alliance to capture a telepathic girl, follows the Serenity crew. An amazing romp in the verse.


A universal teleportation circle found in the deserts of Egypt, lead a crew led by Kurt Russell, with James Spader and Alexis Cru to humans, that worship the god Ra.

War of the Worlds

An amazing adaptation of the novel by H.G. Wells, it is truly well done, in this movie, with Dakota Fanning, Tom Cruise and a boring long scene with Tim Robbins. Yep, we could have done with a much shorter scene fellas. When aliens attack earth, earth fights back. Wonderful.


A commando team on a mission in Central America get picked off one by one by an extra terrestrial. I love that movie. Always have. Arnold Schwartznegger at his best, really.


A teenage albino young man is found in the basement of his grandparents’ home after they die. His unique talents are both a joy to some but a source of fear to the small community.


Neo, a computer hacker, finds himself targeted by the police when he contacts the leader of the resistance. An almost Zen approach to the existentialist problem. I watch this movie once a month, at least. Yep, I am a freak, sorry.


Who can replace the creepy sleek alien on the mining ship in space. With Sigourney Weaver, Tom Skerritt and John Hurt. The original.

Riddick – Pitch Black

A group of stranded travelers land on a planet which seems too hot for survival. We are introduced to the teenager of the group Jack and Imam al Walid. Great movie. Vin Diesel.


Machines made to look like humans are attacking the earth. I never tire of this movie.

If you are a science fiction lover and have not seen these movies, you are missing out. Some may be old, some brand new but they are wonderful and keep the imagination churning and the heart pumping. Good clean fun.


Gorging in Georgia

Dear Baba Rumcake,

I feel ugly and powerless after I ate three slices of pizza, and cried while I did it. I feel gross.

Ever since my husband told me he stopped having sex with me because I stopped seeming to care about my body and looks, I’ve only had some good days.

Most of the time I feel disgusting. I can’t bear to have him watch me eat or walk anymore, because I waddle. Today i wanted to get chips at the store, and i remembered him saying “the last time you went on a diet you came home after day 3 and ate a half of bag of chips at 9 at night all by yourself” and I just started crying silently and havent fully stopped since.

I wish I could get over all these horrible food-related feelings. I know 3 pcs isnt a real binge, and I won’t purge or anything–but i hate how ugly and horrible just thinking about food makes me feel. I wish i had never become this way.

I wish counseling helped more. I wish I could stop defeating myself.

I’m sorry for whining. i’m just so goddamn sad.

Gorging in Georgia

Dear Gorging,
Before I say anything else about your diet, let me just explain that you are married to a douche. I assume that you have been married for a while and most of the time, couples get past the initial looks thing. It seems to me that your precious is still stuck in the dating rut.

As for you, you are not off the hook by any means. Get on it, honey. Close your mouth. An older aunt suggested to me once that all I had to do was “Zip your mouth shut”. Don’t whine, just stop it. Not so easy? Join any number of dieting services, Overeaters Anonymous, Jenny Craig, Weight Watchers, etc. Get on with it, not for that prick of a husband of yours, but for you.

Food is not your enemy, you are. You are spoilt and have too much. You are being irresponsible with blessings that you have been given and taking advance. You have food, be grateful. Then, go from there. If you are healthy, be grateful. If you can eat, be grateful.

What is truly disgusting is not your noshing habits, but wasting money on Counseling, when you can just get on with it. You need a swift kick in the pants to get started down the right road. Counseling for what? What are you getting counseled on? To not eat?

As for that husband of yours, tell him to stuff a pizza in his pie hole.

Blessings, add some whine to your pizza and have a good day.
Baba Rumcake

10 Feel Good Movies

Here’s my List of 10 Feel Good Movies

The Bucket List

Two terminally ill men meet in the hospital and go together on a trip of a lifetime. Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman. Amazing!

Love Actually

Eight different couples dealing with love in different places. The settings are different and all in the few weeks before Christmas. Wonderful with Hugh Grant, Liam Neeson and many other wonderful people.

Sense and Sensibility

Emma Thompson and Kate Winslet, with Hugh Grant and James Fleet in Jane Austin’s wonderful story of sacrifice and finding love. Lovely!

The Holiday

Two women one in England and one in the States switch homes for Christmas, end up finding out who they really are. Kate Winslet and Cameron Diaz with Jack Black and Jude Law. Charming!

What Dreams May Come

Robin Williams, Cuba Gooding Jr. and Annabella Sciorra in a story of love that endures forever. Wonderful color and imagination.

Big Fish

A dying man and his son try to come to terms with their relationship. The son trues to see past the lies he thinks his father tells. Ewan McGregor, Albert Finney and Billy Crudup are a wonderful crew.

Finding Neverland

Johnny Depp weaves a story for a dying woman and her four children. Amazing story and movie.

Under the Tuscan Sun

Diane Lane, one of my favorite actresses, by the way, finds herself after her divorce, when she buys a home on Tuscany and gets what she asked for all along. Wonderful story.


Juliet Binoche, Judi Dench and Alfred Molina with Johnny Depp in a story of a woman and her daughter who move about with the wind and end up in a narrow community. Delightful!

Home for the Holidays

Holly Hunter, Anne Bancroft and Robert Downey Jr. in a funny story of coming home for thanksgiving and the mishaps involved. Hilarious! Don’t take it personally.

Delight in these selections made for the people who want some fun with a twist of humor and joy.