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Because I’m Worth It?

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One of the worst slogans the media came up with for women is “Because I’m worth it!” Shame on you! Shame on the manipulative advertising whores who use psycho analysis of self worth to manipulate and exploit the young and the weak. A continuous reassurance of our self centered, egotistical evolution from caring human beings to arrogant spoilt bitches.

It is a criminal master mind who came up with this trite that has been taken up and spewed out all over our television screens. The Mad Men who created this outrage to exploit. I stopped using the product, no matter how good, some of it is, just to avoid that barrage of insults.

Women, are not so small minded, that we need reaffirmation constantly, as we use our hair products, that we are special. Two words, “special” and “worth it” have become the bane of our culture. Nowhere else, do you see this kind of self massage, self indulgence of what we think of ourselves.

However, it has been sadly effective to some millions of sheep out there. The ones who actually do believe that using this product will make them somehow, feel better about themselves. Women’s vanity indeed!

It is a good thing that some people do not take them so seriously.

It is a good thing to make fun of such nonsense. The assault and insult of this absurd proclamation, is just an example, of the degrading to devalue people, by the marketing industry. Their product will make you worth it, in other words. So, the people who do not use the product, are not as worthy.

The trumpeting of such absurdity professes how little the media thinks of us and our ability to evaluate and discern. We cannot be counted on to see, use and decide for ourselves that a product is good on its own merit and efficacy. No, we have to evaluate ourselves and our personalities to use or not use a product.

May you rot in hell for your wicked pronouncements.

Alone should not mean lonely!

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Dear Baba Rumcake,

Hi! How does one get past the lonely feelings?
Divorced Dan in Durham

Dear Divorced,
You can be alone, but not lonely.You need to learn to be by yourself. Your question implies that you have not learned to be by yourself, for any length of time.

Learning to be alone is an art, worth exploring. Join a Yoga group. Learn to meditate. Join a singles club. Get out, have coffee and engage with strangers.

People who cannot be alone, generally, do not like themselves. When you like someone, you spend time with them. You need to learn to like who you are. If there are things you do not like about yourself, this is the time to explore them and make the necessary changes. Consider this the transition time, for meeting the woman of your future.

You will survive. But that is not enough. You need to learn to partake of life. Get out there and live.

Blessings on your alone days. Let me know how it goes.
Baba Rumcake

Love What You Do!

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“Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.” –
  —  Confucius

I did not realize the truth of that statement and wisdom until today. About a month ago, I decided to quit my technical, well paying job and place my undivided attention to writing and reading.

It has been a month now; with days, I have spent wondering, if I did the wrong thing. Days wondering if I am working. Wondering when I should start doing what I set out to do. Suddenly, holding this incredible book that I was reading, “Winter Solistice” by Rosamunde Pilcher, sitting before the ocean, I realized, that, I was working.

The only difference was, it did not feel like work since I loved what I was doing so much and would do it anyway, even if, it was not the means for me to make a living.

Overwhelmed by the realization, I was thanking God and feeling grateful for this act of mercy on His part. I can actually do what I love to do and make a living at it also.

It only took me a whole year to decided to take the right step in the right direction, leaving behind the security of my old job. I was stunned at the possibilities and frightened at the failures. If I fail, it will be a glorious failure, having spent time expressing and reading and writing and living. If I succeed, then I have accomplished what everyone sets out to do, love what they do and do it well.

Nothing is more fulfilling than to love the job that you do knowing that you can do it with grace and abandon. Never had I stopped writing, never had I stopped reading. But, to read and write for a job, is more than I could have dreamed of.

Stephen King said that if you have no time to read, you have no skills to write. Your tools are broken. So, from that I learned that the wonderful time reading was actually honing up on my skills and techniques. God bless you, Mr. King. You are my hero.

Writing is not about equipment, writing is about the tools your have, your words and the ones you learn along the way. How you say them, convey them and execute them in ways to move and entice your audience.

When all is said and done, I want to go out of this world some day, saying that I have done the things I wanted to do and loved to do. I do not want to regret the days I have spent without trying at least to do it.

Failing Kindergarten! Now what?

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Dear Baba Rumcake,

I’m crazy about this girl, who won’t have me.

Or, rather, she won’t have me, again.

But I’ve got a gf. I shouldn’t even want, anyone else. The gf is a good person, attractive, sweet. The passion is understated, though. And, I think she’s got some deep seated issues. She’s very quiet.

Is being excited about someone a turnoff for them? I never seem to get the ones I’m excited about.

Wanting in Wichita

Dear Wanting,

I did not miss the word ‘again’ in your note. You need to be clear in your own head about what you want.

So, you did have this girl, and she wanted you, at one time. So, the question is, did you, break it off? And if you did, did you do it, because of the same reasons, that you do not want the new girlfriend? Are you just a greedy, unsatisfied scumbag?

Seems to me, you are not satisfied with what you have, period! It does not matter which girlfriend you get, you will want another.

Not to mention, your innocent, present girlfriend, who has no idea that you are such a low life. If there is no passion, leave her. At least you give her a chance to find someone who has the same level of desire.

You obviously did not learn anything in kindergarten. Namely, being happy with the toy you have, instead of going over and taking another one for yourself. Seems to me, you like wanting what you cannot have.

As for your next question, you are correct. Yes, most people get creeped out, by insistent, unwanted advances.

Stay away from the old, appreciate the new!

Blessings on wanting what you have, instead of having what you cannot,
Baba Rumcake

Groundhog Phil Breakfast, even.

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Ancient traditions have used animals to predict the weather for centuries. But Groundhog Day is a relatively new thing.

Farmers in Germany, waited for late winter to watch the hibernating hedgehog, to come out of his burrow. If the hedgehog saw his shadow, on a bright, sunlit day, he quickly returned to hibernate…therefore, solidifying the prediction, of six more weeks of winter, for German farmers.
When the Germans, settled in Pennsylvania, they brought the old belief with them; replacing the hedgehog, with the more common American, Groundhog.

In 1993 Bill Murray made the delightful movie called Groundhog Day, which is well worth watching, always. In it, he visits, as a reporter, the town that celebrates this day with gusto, where he gets stuck there for days; but meets the famous Punxsutawney Phil, the groundhog.

Punxsutawney Phil is a celebrity, or may even be, the most famous weather forecaster in the USA. Every year, the world’s paparazzi are in attendance in Punxsutawney, Pennsylvania, on February 2nd; as all of America, awaits with frosty breath for Phil to appear.

You can visit the official website for the Groundhog Day celebration. This year they are even hosting a yearly Breakfast with Phil! Yum….

Enjoy!

http://www.groundhog.org/