Dear Baba Rumcake,
I’ve been dating a guy definitely for about 8 weeks, before we were friends for 8 months.
We’ve been sleeping together. Even took me out for Valentine’s Day.
Today he posted some funny video on Facebook, and I replied to it. Something sweet, but in no way vulgar or strange. He removed my post. So when I asked him why, he said because it “implies you are my GF”. He has been trying to apologize. What should I do? I am so hurt.
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Love & Relations
Cheating How To Know
How to assess:
- Feeling like something is wrong: trust you intuition. If you think something is wrong, pay attention. Unless of course you are one of those apt to find a problem everywhere.
- Constant privacy: if they start to need more time “alone” to surf the net or to go out with friends or to just be without you and they did not do it before, something is up.
- If they state that you are “just friends”: if suddenly you become just friends then something is on the back burner. They just have not had the courage to break off with you yet, since the other thing is not for sure yet.
- I love you so much but not “in love” with you: this is the time to run the other way if things are not so deep. If you care then you have to figure out what is going on.
- More showers than usual: Cheating people will often pay close attention to their grooming habits. Dress better, make sure their hair is perfect. There is a certain amount of normal in this but if it changes suddenly, pay attention, something is up, they are impressing someone.
- Late evening work hours: a certain amount of late at work is reasonable but if starts up suddenly and keeps getting longer and more often then they are seeing someone else.
- Needing space: when you are a couple, space is limited but when it is demanded when it was not before, something is up.
In general, the rule of thumb is to pay close attention if things change suddenly in areas that were normal for the two of you. Habits changing or attitudes even. If they get angry too quickly lately or never show up on time when they say they would. When you call they do not pick up.
Refrain from being paranoid but do not be stupid.
Why Men Seek Youth
I saw this and thought i should post for women to see.
Free advice from Baba Rumcake that explains how some men are scumbags.
Bad News and the Good News…
Sorry if this is harsh but its good (life changing) advice.
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Needing Male Boss
Dear Baba Rumcake,
Male or Female boss, which is better?
I have a GREAT opportunity for a new job that will pay me wayyy better.
I have a phone interview this week. Good thing the hiring manager is male.
Worked for women for years and wow this manager I have @ my current job is very NITPICKY and maybe I’m tired of it. Wondering if I’m going to get this (I’m qualified). Have you had better experience working w/ male or female bosses?
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Long Distance Not Hot Enough
This guy is becoming distant…what to do?
I met this guy online and he expressed deep interest and how he feels about me. Then the 2nd time we chat, I told him how I feel about him. One thing is every time I chat with him, it goes really well but afterward I am gone like for a week before chat with him again.
Now after 3 chats, I feel he is cooling off. But I am not sure if it is because I told him how I feel so he lost interest. I tried to reconcile with him, and he answers my messages but is always lukewarm with close ended answers.
Anyone tell me what is the reason causing the cool off? Should I go ahead ask straight what is the reason since trying to small chat has failed?
Thanks and your sincere advice is really appreciated!
Cooling Off Freezing Me Off
Dear COFMO,
- This is a long distance chat.
- This has only lasted for three chats
- How can you have feelings for someone after a single chat?
- How hot was he from a long distance after one chat?
- So what if he cools off, you do not even know him.
- If his answers are close ended, he is not interested and keeping you for a lonely night when there is no one else online.
- If you want to ask him, outright, what is stopping you?
Blessings on keeping warm,
Baba Rumcake