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Do You Have a Significant Jerk?

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23 Reasons Why You Might Have a Significant Jerk

Below are reasons to dump the jerk in your life. It could be a man or a woman. Don’t be sexist. Just because, it is a jerk, does not mean, just men, it could be a jerk woman; i.e. BITCH. If they do any or a combination of the following things, then today is:

Dump Your Significant Jerk Day!

(for men, please substitute she, thanks)

  • If he mentions how or what you eat; anything about food, dump the jerk.
  • If he ever hit you, dump him.
  • If he intimidates you, dump his ass.
  • If he does not want to meet your parents, dump him.
  • If he does not like ANY of your friends, he is not good.
  • If he does not like you to do anything besides with him, he is controlling.
  • If he hates it when you take up a hobby, he is a jerk.
  • If he is on the phone while ordering his coffee, he is rude and will be to you too in the future.
  • If he does not stand up when he meets your mother or father, he is worthless and disrespectful.
  • If he cannot support himself, get rid of him.
  • If you are the butt of his jokes with people dump him.
  • If he hates it when you warm up against him, he is a jerk.
  • If her spends no time alone with you, he is a jerk.
  • If her does not call when he is going to be late, yep jerk.
  • If he does not cuddle, then he is not a keeper.
  • If he does not kiss you and touch you sometimes, dump the ass.
  • If he watches gay porn he is gay, dump him (for men, maybe you do not want to dump her).
  • If he is texting your girlfriends to go out with them, without your knowledge while trying to be with you, pure jerk.
  • iI he cheats and you accept it, he will do it again; jerk, no surprise there.
  • If he is not reliable, today is the day.
  • If he is not stronger than you physically, (just for women).
  • If you do not feel secure in him, dump him.
  • And finally, if you do not feel safe with him, dump the jerk.

Do you have any other reasons to add to this list? Comments are now open…

Love What You Do!

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“Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.” –
  —  Confucius

I did not realize the truth of that statement and wisdom until today. About a month ago, I decided to quit my technical, well paying job and place my undivided attention to writing and reading.

It has been a month now; with days, I have spent wondering, if I did the wrong thing. Days wondering if I am working. Wondering when I should start doing what I set out to do. Suddenly, holding this incredible book that I was reading, “Winter Solistice” by Rosamunde Pilcher, sitting before the ocean, I realized, that, I was working.

The only difference was, it did not feel like work since I loved what I was doing so much and would do it anyway, even if, it was not the means for me to make a living.

Overwhelmed by the realization, I was thanking God and feeling grateful for this act of mercy on His part. I can actually do what I love to do and make a living at it also.

It only took me a whole year to decided to take the right step in the right direction, leaving behind the security of my old job. I was stunned at the possibilities and frightened at the failures. If I fail, it will be a glorious failure, having spent time expressing and reading and writing and living. If I succeed, then I have accomplished what everyone sets out to do, love what they do and do it well.

Nothing is more fulfilling than to love the job that you do knowing that you can do it with grace and abandon. Never had I stopped writing, never had I stopped reading. But, to read and write for a job, is more than I could have dreamed of.

Stephen King said that if you have no time to read, you have no skills to write. Your tools are broken. So, from that I learned that the wonderful time reading was actually honing up on my skills and techniques. God bless you, Mr. King. You are my hero.

Writing is not about equipment, writing is about the tools your have, your words and the ones you learn along the way. How you say them, convey them and execute them in ways to move and entice your audience.

When all is said and done, I want to go out of this world some day, saying that I have done the things I wanted to do and loved to do. I do not want to regret the days I have spent without trying at least to do it.

Hug A Spunky Old Broad Today!

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Today is Spunky Old Broad Day, and here is a tribute to all those wonderful over 50 spunky old women who turn everything into an adventure.

A Spunky Old Broad is full of enthusiasm and drive. Be careful, when you ask her what she thinks, she will tell you. Even, if, you don’t ask her, she might tell you.

She is over 50, can, out work, you and, out exercise, you, not because she is stronger, but harder headed, staying the course and not giving up. She is the one, who speed walks, everywhere, and you cannot keep up. You find yourself, constantly, saying, “What’s the rush! ”

Rushing? She is not rushing, she is just, moving. Get out of her way and let her do her thing. If you call a Spunky Old Broad to help, do not expect her to take orders and sit back while you drive the show. She will take over and make it work. After all, you did call her in, meaning, you called in, the troops, and she is it.

A Spunky Old Broad is full of energy. She is capable of releasing it into a room, electrifying those surrounding her. But, she can also, suck up all the energy, out of the room, making you feel like, a dolt. She is the dynamo of a room, the generator to the motion and nothing will stand in her way.

People around her will always comment, “Where’s the fire?” Fire? The fire is in her gut, in her soul. She is a Firestarter, and will move along and sizzle with gusto, electrifying everyone around her, to move and do. She is a paragon of strength and resolve.

One of her better qualities is her positive attitude.Rarely do you see her down. Her life is a series of enthusiastic endeavors all meant to help her community, the people around her and herself.

She is woman hear her roar, that Spunky Old Broad. And she likes it!

Silence in Harbin Hot Springs

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I spent three days in silence at Harbin Hot Springs. Harbin was the easiest place to do that since it is a retreat where people go to meditate, think and soak in the hot springs of Middletown, CA.

It was not so much that I had a lot to say, no; it was the habit of commenting on everything. Finding out that most of what I say to my husband was unnecessary, was a real slap in the face. Being silent for three days gave me the opportunity to discover the absurdity of my conversations.

Finding out that I comment, non stop, on things around us, even people and nonsensical subjects, even. While silence made me realize that my observations were not necessary. The earth will still turn on its axis, without them. The sun, will still rise in the east, and set in the west, without, my expletives.

Silence brought on thoughtfulness and writing. Finding myself unable to communicate abruptly, everything was calculated. When I wrote my husband, it was to actually say something that needed to be said; like, let’s eat, not she looks like a frog.

It curbed my tongue, it curbed my thoughts. Ugly thoughts, were cut short, since there was no avenue for them. If my mind brought up vileness, it had to clear it up quickly, since it would have had to stay inside and fester. A true cleansing from the inside out.

I still practice silence. Every few weeks, I take a break, and shut up! I do not, have to be, at the Harbin quiet, to do it. No excuses, I just do it.

Silence is golden.

Here’s the link to check out the comfort of Harbin Hot Springs.

Facebook Mom in Ft. Lauderdale

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Dear Baba Rumcake,

My daughter is complaining, because I am insisting, that she “friend” me on FB. I pay her college tuition and her bills. What should I do?

Facebook Mom in Ft. Lauderdale

Dear Facebook Mom(s),

As Peanut, from Jeff Dunham, said, “Holy crap! Help me out! Help me out!”

Back off! That is the first thing I would suggest to you. Back the hello off!

FB is a Social Network; not a Spy Network.
Make your own damn friends. Let your daughter be. Let her grow up and have her own friends, her own age. FB is not for you to observe your daughter, it is for her to have fun.

If your mother was on Facebook, with you, when you were younger, it would have been, a sore wound. Remember when you were young? I could not imagine, that you would have appreciated her, following every silly thing you said, having the opportunity, to comment on it, too.

You probably remind her to eat her vegetables. Or why she had not called you, or if she remembered, to pick up her room, yuck! Anything, you could come up with; in your interest, to keep tabs on her, on Facebook.

After 18, even if parents, are paying the bills in college, there should be a law, banning them, from Facebook. Just kidding, relax! No matter what we say, we are never the same with our mothers. There is a need to be good and wonderful. But, if your offspring, wants to get down to it, do what she wants to do, and be bad, you, will be watching on FB. Sheeeesh! That’s not happening.

Do not take it personally. Sometimes, we ban someone from our environment because they hate people we associate with, also. I have done that.

Nothing is more degrading or annoying than a parent who reminds their child of every little thing they do for them. Do you want a medal for taking care of her bills? It is your responsibility to take care of your child,  in any manner you choose. Do not complain about it, just stop doing it. Or, stop complaining, and be responsible.

Lastly, have your own friends. You’re a big girl, get on with your life and let your daughter live hers.

Blessings on backing off. Let me know if it works out.

Baba Rumcake