Love
FWB Not Marrying Me
Dear Baba Rumcake,
What would your reaction be if you had an FWB and out of the blue, they told you that they were getting married. You’ve had this FWB for almost a year already.
Out of The Blue
Dear Out of the Blue,
Ummm, Joy? [Read more…] about FWB Not Marrying Me
Essential To Teach Children Manners
It is not that Important until it is.
Teaching our children manners is an old fashioned idea that seems to have fallen by the wayside. Too harsh? Maybe that is a little coarse. So, let’s make it an easier pill to swallow. Our values have changed so much, that, what we discipline our children for and the manners we require of them, are less demanding than before.
Children will do whatever they please, that is normal. But, we do live in society, unless you do not. If you do, then you have to take steps to mould some of those wild instincts before they become destructive habits. [Read more…] about Essential To Teach Children Manners
Gay, Past Life; Are You Serious?
Dear Baba Rumcake,
I love my wife and children but occasionally, I like to be with men. Does that mean I was gay in a past life?
Tantalized from Cleveland
Dear Tantalized,
No, I would say, no. You were not gay, in a past life. You are gay, in this life.
Are you kidding, pal? I got it, that, you lived your life hiding behind the marriage certificate, bully for you. You have children too, very clever. I imagine, that you think that you are outsmarting everyone who loves you, by having such a great cover. You are not the first nor will you be the last man to do that.
It is interesting that you would want to believe that you were gay in a past life so that you would not admit that you are gay right now, in this life, at this moment. Which makes you an imaginative jughead.
If you continue down that path, it will be alright for a while, I guess, but not for long. Since you are gay, you will make mistakes and will get caught. When your wife finds out, she will probably want to bash your head in. Forewarned is forearmed!
Either stay off the “sauce” or get out, of the proverbial, closet, and live your life the way you want to live it.
So, just to clarify, so that there would be no mistakes about my answer to you, I will explain again.
You are gay. Do not make witless excuses for your needs.
Any man, who wants to be, with another man, is gay. Grow up! Past lives excuse, is for Quixotic dimwits.
Blessings on your past life.
Baba Rumcake
Do You Love Me or Are You Unhappy?
Dear Baba Rumcake,
Would you have a relationship with someone if you believed they would be unhappy with you?
If you love them and want them, but you think they’d be happier if you didn’t have a relationship with them…would you do it anyway?
Despondent in Danville
Dear Despondent,
There is an older funny movie with Bruce Willis and lovely Kim Bassinger, I suggest you see that flick. It will explain some of your questions.
On the other hand, it sounds to me like you are a selfish, self centered halfwit. If you think that this ploy will continue forever, you are mistaken. If you get what you want, it will be a disaster in the future. You will possess what you want, temporarily, but it will blow up in your face, causing caustic abrasions to your soul and hers.
Why in the world would you want to be with someone who would be unhappy with you. What kind of low life are you? What happened to knowing yourself and finding the person who finds you irresistible.
Only a cretin would go down that road of keeping someone with them that they know could be happier elsewhere. Only an imbecile would think that this would work long term.
Assuming that you are none of those things, just let her go and have a life of your own.
Blessings on your unselfish, good judgment,
Baba Rumcake